The more inundated I am with images from social media, TV, movies, advertising, the more I will see and accept this as the norm. I already see that in myself. And that would be ok except when I see myself start to question my own face’s legitimacy, when I start to think, “is this something I have to spend my money on? Is this something worth considering, fixing, fighting?”
When my (then) partner asked me why I don’t shave my ass I told him, “because you have to draw the line somewhere.” Ladies and gentlemen, this is what freedom looks like. What I meant was that I was done with striving. I could see the futility in trying to achieve the airbrushed look andContinue reading “Your Back Fat Will Set You Free”
I’m not gay for the same reasons I didn’t become a teacher: everyone said I would.
This is a course for artists and non-artists, writers and non-writers; people who think they have maybe been missing something and could be living in a way that is more true to who they are. There will be an expectation of all participants of energy, participation, vulnerability, commitment and time. You don’t need to have any specific skills, any answers, or any experience with workshops like this. All that is asked is you show up, be honest and try.
A very long time ago I made a deal with God: I said that I would forgo love for a Writing Life. Love was the only thing I wanted nearly as much as to write, and surely, I thought, success at writing would demand a great sacrifice.
Are we now ready to be honest with ourselves that maybe all this time of reading and listening and watching has been because we haven’t been ready to heal?
After a certain point we have to ask ourselves, if what we have isn’t what we want, why do we still have it?
An opportunity to simplify was given to us in 2020, a reason to check out our surroundings and determine if we like where we’re standing and where we’re going. What I have realized is that I don’t want to be at odds with myself anymore.
I have spent most of my life either alone or trying to make others happy. And not because they asked me to but because their wants and needs were so much clearer to me than my own. I became so used to this routine that I assumed this was being in a relationship. I started to think that making other people happy was what made me happy.
Solving the misalignments in ourselves requires asking what part of you feels safe with your patterns even when you feel dissatisfied with your life. Like it or not, believe it or not, your patterns of self-sabotage, poor communication, lethargy, compulsive behaviours, etcetera, are the response to a need to feel safe that you are denying.